Who Am I As A Communicator?

For the blog this week, we were asked to think about the similarities and differences between how we evaluated ourselves as a communicator and how others evaluated us.

My evaluation of myself reflects exactly how I see myself. My listening style is reflective of being a people-oriented person who listens and cares. My verbal aggressiveness score reflected that of being a good balance between both viewpoints and my communication score was also listed in the moderate area. I see myself pretty neutral all the time. I am the one who stays in the midpoint during discussions and arguments. I have always thought of myself as more of a peacemaker. However, these quizzes show and reflect exactly who I am.

For this assignment, my husband and my assistant of 3 years evaluated me. Both my husband and assistant evaluated my listening style as people-oriented. They weren’t surprised from that score and neither was I. My assistant scored my communication anxiety also as moderate as I did myself, however I was surprised to see that my husbands answers placed me in the elevated area. I usually don’t find myself unsure in many communication situations so I’m unsure as to why this score was reflected. The verbal aggressiveness score was in the moderate box from all of us. I was happy to see that I am reflected as having a good balance between respect and consideration.

Through this weeks assignment I gained great insight and perception. I’ve learned a lot about how I perceive others and how my assumptions about others affect many of the relationships I have with others. I have realized that I do a lot of assuming prior to actually knowing a person – it may not be a stereotype but it is still an assumption, which isn’t something I should do. I’ve also learned how others reflect me. Although my husband and I live together his score of me didn’t reflect my exact score, however my assistant who has been working with me for 3 years could verbal give examples of each score and how it pertains to me.